Moving to a new city may be stressful for children too. Whilst it may seem more convenient to keep it from them until it’s only days away, sharing the plans and getting them involved is a better option. Even if they can’t help with any of the preparation, keeping them informed and involved will make it easier for them to understand what is happening, as well as prepare them for upcoming changes. If it’s your first time moving with children, there are other things that you can do to prepare them for the move.

Planning a house move is a complex process and things are even more complicated if you are moving with your children. Aside from preparing your belongings and looking for reliable removalists, you also have to think about how to break the news to the children so they are properly prepared for this big step. Whether it's your first time moving to a new home or it's your first time moving with a child, the tips listed below can help make the preparation easier for you.

Talk about the move as early as you can

Depending on the age of your children, you may choose to have everyone gather in the living room or dining room to make the announcement. If you have very young kids and adolescent children, you may tell them separately to make sure that you are able to offer each child the support they need. You may tell your adolescent children earlier and get them involved in the moving process. Inform younger kids at least a month before the move so they have enough time to process the information.

Give them enough time to say goodbye

Part of preparing your children for the move is letting them have enough time to say goodbye to their friends, schoolmates, house pets (if you're not taking them), and other favourite things about the old home that you’re leaving behind during the move. Younger kids don't often find it delightful to move into a new home as it is harder for them to comprehend why the move is necessary.

Provide a picture of how the new home/life will be

It will be easier for the children to prepare and adapt to the changes if you provide them with a visual reference. When you talk to them about the move, it's better to give them a detailed explanation about what will and what will not change. Children are creative and it will be easier for them to picture their new lives when you provide them with as much detail as possible. If possible, take them with you when you visit the place and give them a little tour to help them visualise themselves living in the new home.

Involve them in making decisions

As mentioned above, getting the children involved in some aspects of the move can make it easier for them to process the new information. When possible, get the children involved in the decision-making process. For example, you may let them choose their room, what items they can bring, and which sheets will be used in their new bedroom. Adolescent kids can also be involved in more important decisions and even help out in the planning.

Create a plan for moving day

No matter how big or small the move is, planning will make a lot of difference when you are taking your entire family with you. Whilst it is not the most interesting bonding event, you can gather family members to plan the move, creating timelines, schedules, and checklists. You may then delegate tasks according to what every member of the family is good at. This way, everyone can work efficiently and you won't have to waste time redoing things or second-guessing what task to do next.